I trust your body but I don't trust your eating disorder

I trust your body but I don't trust your eating disorder

Recently, I was talking to a client in eating disorder recovery (of note, all of this is being shared with her permission) who reported feeling really frustrated that so many non-diet dietitians are sharing messages on Instagram about trusting your body and having bodily autonomy while also being recommended by her treatment team (myself included) to eat more consistently. “Y’all need to make up your minds” she said (half) jokingly.

And to be fair, I get where she’s coming from. I am one of the many dietitians talking about body trust, body autonomy, and body liberation on social media. So many of us are practically shouting it from the rooftops - because we steadfastly believe in it for everyone, full stop. We believe that everyone gets to make choices about their body, their health care, their food, their movement.

Thursday thoughts- 5/16/19

Thursday thoughts- 5/16/19

A few months ago, I announced I was going to start doing some “Thursday Thoughts” posts - and then I promptly ceased blogging or doing anything creative for about 3 months. I shared more about that in my newsletter this week and may write a separate post about it in the future but suffice it to say, I was tired and stressed and needed a break (also if you haven’t subscribed to my newsletter yet, what are you waiting for? You can sign up here to hear from me every month and get blog, book, and podcast recommendations in addition to other thoughts and diet culture rants). Anyhoo- the bottom line here is that I’m back and happy to be sharing some thoughts with you all.

3 reasons to throw away your scale

3 reasons to throw away your scale

A conversation I’ve been having with clients a lot lately (and frankly, have quite a bit) is about the scale. It’s actually become one of the first questions I ask people during their initial assessments - “do you own a scale? What do you do with that information?” Because I find that oftentimes, the scale plays a pretty significant role in a person’s eating disorder or as a trigger for disordered behaviors. And it turns out (as a surprise to probably no one), I am not a huge advocate of having a scale in the house or regularly using a scale in any way. Before we get into it, I want to acknowledge that it is possible to view weight as neutral and if you’re a person who can step on the scale, not judge the outcome, and move on with your day, that’s great (although I might ask what value this brings to your life). But in my experience, the scale brings up a lot for people and doesn’t provide them with much in return. Which is why I decided to craft this piece for all those people who might be feeling like they’re in an unhealthy relationship with their scale. Consider this your permission slip to throw it out. Toss it. Smash it with a hammer.

clothes shopping when you're struggling with body image

clothes shopping when you're struggling with body image

I went clothes shopping last weekend which reminded me of how much I used to hate clothes shopping and sometimes still do. I have had my body image struggles as most people have. There was a time of my life that I had a deep hatred for my body. And after a lot of work and a lot of time, I’ve been able to heal that somewhat and consider myself to have a pretty positive (or at least neutral) relationship with my body. When I talk about body image, I’m not phoning it in - I really believe we can all learn to respect, accept, or even love our bodies (again I want to fully acknowledge that this process is much harder for some people than others). 

But let me tell you, clothes shopping sucks sometimes.