Hello and happy Thursday!
I'm doing a throwback today from a post I did around New Year's on Sundaes for the Soul (that website is offline as of right now, as I continue to transition to using this site for everything). Lately, it seems like I (and so many others) have been inundated with messages of weight loss, needing to diet, needing to have the "perfect" body, especially in the summer- but really, what else new? Those messages, unfortunately, exist year round. So below you'll find that post about how dieting is a political act (and can also be harmful to us) - enjoy and feel free to comment below!
This time of year is a deluge of weight-loss commercials, detox ads, gym membership specials. I can hardly turn on the TV without seeing an ad for weight loss (thankfully, I watch Netflix for the most part and can successfully avoid the weight loss madness). People are posting on insta their "fitness/body goals" for the new year. People everywhere are talking about how their going to commit themselves to the gym/veganism/whole food diet/gluten-free/dairy-free/low carb/no carb/low fat/no fat/paleo/alkaline diet. As much as I hate diet talk of any kind, I am compassionate towards people trying these kinds of things because our culture tells them they have to. A woman who isn't dieting is not trying hard enough. She doesn't care about herself, they'll tell you. THAT IS 1000% BULLSHIT.
Dieting is the patriarchy's way of making sure women continue to live small. It was a years-ago thought up strategy to keep women on a hamster wheel of diets. Because as long as we stay on the hamster wheel, we're quiet. We are not speaking up or speaking out. We don't have the time or the energy to pursue our wildest dreams. We are quietly staying in the place where men long ago put us. Don't fall for it: you are so much bigger than the box dieting traps you in.
There's a lot of reasons I hate dieting. The patriarchal history is enough to infuriate me and abstain from dieting ever again (because I'll be damned if I ever let a bunch of old, white men tell me what I have to do with my body, ever). But also the physical and mental effects are horrible and dangerous. It manifests a neurotic relationship with food. It makes you feel tired, foggy, in a daze. It teaches us to ignores our body's natural hunger cues. It teaches us to stop listening to our body all together, when it comes to both food and movement. If you want to know more effects of dieting, I strongly recommend you research the Minnesota Starvation Experiment. Refinery29 has a great article that you can read HERE (also Kelsey Miller is an anti-diet queen and I highly recommend reading her book Big Girl). I'm planning on doing a post dedicated just to the Minnesota studies but suffice it to say that it is a fascinating read.
Sweet girl (man/non-conforming human), I cannot tell you how much you don't need to diet. I cannot tell you how much you do not have to lose those last X pounds. I cannot tell you how little it matters if you fit into those size X pants. You are so worthy. You are more than worthy. You are a human being who has fought and loved and struggled and conquered in order to get to this place. You deserve to be here without condition. You do not have to change your body. An extra 20 minutes on the treadmill is not going to make you a better person. You are good enough, exactly as you are. I really, really promise.
If you're ready to get off the dieting train forever, if you're ready to experience food and body freedom, I want to work with you! I am now accepting new clients to journey into intuitive eating, body acceptance and total liberation with. If you're interested, you can contact me here. I would love to talk to you!
Sending you the warmest wishes and non-diet vibes,