Body acceptance

clothes shopping when you're struggling with body image

clothes shopping when you're struggling with body image

I went clothes shopping last weekend which reminded me of how much I used to hate clothes shopping and sometimes still do. I have had my body image struggles as most people have. There was a time of my life that I had a deep hatred for my body. And after a lot of work and a lot of time, I’ve been able to heal that somewhat and consider myself to have a pretty positive (or at least neutral) relationship with my body. When I talk about body image, I’m not phoning it in - I really believe we can all learn to respect, accept, or even love our bodies (again I want to fully acknowledge that this process is much harder for some people than others). 

But let me tell you, clothes shopping sucks sometimes. 

can you be an intuitive eater on Thanksgiving?

can you be an intuitive eater on Thanksgiving?

Can you believe that it’s already more than halfway through November? It feels like this year is flying by and there hasn’t been much room to slow and down and breath. Thanksgiving is in less than a week (what?!) and while I am excited to go home and spend time with my family, I am also acutely aware that this can be a really challenging time if you’re struggling in your relationship with food. I’ve been talking with a lot of my clients recently about the upcoming holiday and wanted to share some of my thoughts about navigating food on the holidays.

when your body can't do what it used to

when your body can't do what it used to

Last week, I went to a yoga class for the first time in awhile (8 months? 10 months?) Yoga is something I wish I did more regularly and at one time I did, but now I’m super selective about the classes/teachers I’ll go to (No weight loss/fitness talk! No yoga practices being co-opted by diet culture! Do not talk to me about bikini season! Do not force me to do crunches and pretend that it’s some ancient practice!)

My relationship with exercise has been somewhat complicated over the years. There was a time in my life where I absolutely abused exercise in all its forms. Yoga at that time served only to burn more calories and I forced myself to go to the heated “power” classes, pretending that it helped with my mental health but not really fooling anyone. Yoga was basically an hour of forcing my body to do things that it didn’t want to do while it begged for sivasana so it could finally get a few minutes of forced rest.

It was not great. 

You Don't Have to Deserve Your Food

You Don't Have to Deserve Your Food

Recently, I was talking to one of my clients about the need to "deserve" food. This is a narrative I hear from a lot of people (and one that's reinforced by the culture at large). Truly, how many times have you heard someone tell you they deserve to have dessert because they did XYZ activity today. I can hardly go out to eat without overhearing someone say "oh come on, you deserve it!" whether it's to dessert, a second drink, a meal that they would consider "bad". I should make it clear that I fully support their decision to order any of these things if they want it but it has nothing to do with whether they deserve it (they do).